Wednesday, February 02, 2005
The little ironies of life
There was this discussion thread on the forum on how to maintain the "romance" in a marriage to keep it fresh so as not to allow third parties to come in between and resulting in extra-marital affairs.
And it has been the little ironies of life.
I must admit that I was not exactly a very romantic husband. Throughout the years, perhaps I must have disappointed her with my unromantic ways. The only time we can get away - just the two of us - were usually our birthdays - when we will have candlelight dinner. And not everytime we were able to do that. And then the "lack of gifts" for her to keep her happy.
But the irony was that in the year 2004, I have done the most in this regard as compared with previous years. For eg, I bought her a diamond ring, a branded watch, gave her flowers on valentine, we had 2 candlelight dinners on our respective birthdays and we went for 2 short but great holidays - mostly paid by me. Not to mention other little gifts like mobile phone, thumb drives and other litte gifts.
But 2004 was the defining year. We drifted apart and it ended up her having an affair. I believe if the relationship between a couple cannot be worked out - all the reasons given are really excuses. There should not be any reason - it should just simply be that the feeling is already gone - it should be simple.
As I said, the ironies of life.
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I've always grown up believing in love being something very beautiful. and I still think is. but I guess you're right. sometimes when it's gone, it's just gone. that's scary isn't it. but one thing for sure...love isn't measured by gifts and how romantic your relationship is. I guess the sad thing that plagues almost every other couple is the lack of quality time cos we're all so busy doing our own stuff. and that's why we fail to realise that every little thing like even a sms or a out-of-the-blue phonecall matters. that it's impt to just hold hands and take long walks...to just sit down somewhere and watch the world go by. and I really hope I can keep to this when I do get married next time. I really hope so. but I guess for now...u must remember to spend such quality time with your kids :) It really matters. but from what I see you'[re already doing it. Keep it up! :)
wanderer
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